Episode 201
Remembering Yourself with Kathleen Connor
What happens when a life that looks “perfect” on the outside quietly drains you on the inside?
In this heartfelt conversation, Elaine Starling welcomes transformational coach Kathleen Connor, whose journey from chronic self-sacrifice to radiant self-devotion reveals why remembering yourself is not selfish — it’s sacred.
Kathleen shares the wake-up moment that changed everything, the subtle signs of depletion many women ignore, and her powerful Recognize → Reject → Replace → Repeat framework for breaking free from invisible roles. This episode is an invitation to return to center, reclaim your energy, and rediscover who you are beneath the roles you’ve been living.
Topics Covered
0:00 Why so many women lose themselves in service — and how it quietly erodes joy
2:30 Kathleen’s wake-up moment and the cost of constant giving
5:55 Centering through breath, Intention, and Divine connection
10:00 The physical and emotional signs you’re externally referenced
14:50 What abundance really is — and why it begins with energy
17:20 Nourishing Love vs. conditional love
19:50 Exhaustion, resentment, and the hidden signals of misalignment
25:55 The Recognize → Reject → Replace → Repeat Method
29:45 Simple daily practices that rebuild self-trust and devotion
34:15 Kathleen’s Emotional Baseline Assessment and next steps
Key Takeaways
🌟 Self-devotion is not selfish — it’s the foundation of authentic service
🌟 Exhaustion is often the first signal that alignment has been lost
🌟 Abundance begins with reclaiming your energy
🌟 Small daily acts of self-care rebuild trust and self-worth
🌟 Remembering yourself restores clarity, joy, and presence
Step-by-Step Process Shared
Recognize → Reject → Replace → Repeat
Recognize → Notice what no longer serves you
Reject → Question roles, beliefs, and patterns rooted in obligation
Replace → Choose nourishing thoughts, habits, and boundaries
Repeat → Practice consistently until it becomes embodied truth
(Listen to the episode for lived examples and practical application.)
Questions Answered in This Episode
- How do you know when giving has crossed into depletion?
- What physical and emotional signals show you’ve lost center?
- How do you give without guilt — and receive without apology?
- What does true abundance feel like in the body?
- What’s one small step you can take today to remember yourself?
Pull Quotes
“Self-devotion is service when it’s rooted in truth.”
“You can’t pour from an empty cup — and you were never meant to.”
“Remembering yourself is how you reclaim your energy and your life.”
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Resources Mentioned in This Episode
- Emotional Baseline Assessment — https://www.chasingpurpose.com
- Discovery Call with Kathleen Connor — available via her website
About the Guest – Kathleen Connor
Kathleen Connor is a transformational coach and creator of the Box-Breaking Method, helping women break free from invisible roles that keep them exhausted, over-giving, and disconnected from themselves. After a profound personal wake-up call, Kathleen now guides women to give with Intention, receive without guilt, and live lives that feel as good as they look.
🌐 https://www.chasingpurpose.com
About the Host – Elaine Starling
Elaine Starling, The Abundance Ambassador, is an international TEDx speaker, bestselling author, coach, and host of The Abundance Journey. Through her signature work, including The Inner Power Protocol, Elaine guides spiritually-minded women to reconnect with Divine guidance, reclaim their center, and activate abundance in every area of life.
🌐 https://www.TheAbundanceJourney.com
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💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elainestarling/
📺 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ElaineStarling
🎤 TEDx: https://youtu.be/tMQ0D4sfEys
📖 Book: https://books2read.com/u/3kD9AR
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